Love Alters Choices -By Ola Wande Ayewalehinmi

Sometimes you will experience some events in life which will surpass your imaginations, like, you don’t really envisage those events aforetime. It’s not because you can’t control your life or can’t decide how your affairs should run, but circumstances surrounding you might be the major factor why it seems so hard for you to control the situations earlier mentioned.
Mostly, it’s because of the people surrounding you at that particular time, especially the closest to you, either realistically or virtually. There are times you behave unusual to the extent of asking yourself such questions like: Is this really me? Am I insane or derailed? Actually, NO, it’s just the current situation that demands such actions. In some cases, your earlier determinations may have to be altered, and given a rethink, thereby giving birth to a new system of running your affairs.
Practically, this events are caused by your closest friend, new friend, foe, teacher, lover, etc
Close friends or lover are the reasons why those changes occur most times, why? Because, you tend to make both necessary and unnecessary adjustments in order to satisfy them even when it inconvenient you, the love and likeness you share makes you wanna make sure they are comfortable with you, in some ways, you may reduce your ego towards them ‘cos you know 2 wrongs cannot make a right, you usually make sacrifices on their behalf just to ensure they remain unhurt and safe with you.

One example is when a lady falls in love with a male friend who she barely sees but feels comfortable with him, when I say ‘love’, I mean she affectionately likes the person in a friendly way and always feels comfortable whenever she speaks with him, on this note, she may change a lot of determinations she had earlier proposed, and willing to change more decisions and take more actions should need be.
Before then, she might have had choices she made that she felt it can never be altered even if it’s an ‘angel’ that comes around, she might have concluded in her mind that, ‘i dont wanna love now’, due to reasons known to her, but as events unfold now, she had altered a lot, just because of the new friend.

Another example could be a guy who had not been a fan of the female folks for a long time, but now, there’s this beautiful lady that has really won his heart that he can’t resist talking to her regularly because he feels comfortable and loved, he now knows that, there’s love even in the absence of dating, and wholesome relationship in a friendly way can be sexier than mating. He feels a sense of belonging that someone somewhere misses him, and will never want to loose him, plus, someone is wholesomely jealous and fond of him.
What about the past? His past determinations were, Why will I like a lady passionately and miss her? I can’t ! Why will I call a lady on phone and talk for hours when there are other guys who could do the same for her? No, I can’t! But, now, modifications have set in, and once a strong determination has been transmutated and softened. He now calls and laugh for hours on phone, chats her all day and night whenever possible, and loves her even if there are no strings attached, and funniest, willing to transmogrify further.

These are situations some of us have experienced in life, currently experiencing or will still experience, it tells us that, as humans, we are dynamic and can change plans at any point in time especially sacrificing for love.

Yes, love is real and it captures even the strongest man or woman on earth, anyway, it is best enjoyed in a wholesome manner, biblical view of it, if strictly adhered to, is gainful and enjoyable, in case of two lovers, it paves a smooth way for them to a happy marriage.
Love genuinely and never take your loved ones for granted. Make necessary adjustments for them, don’t feel too pompous or over jealous, love your loved ones dearly.

Remember, love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous. It does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. – 1 Cor 13:1-13

Make right changes in life, not to fall into a ‘one chance’ form of change, so as not to be embittered at the end.

This article was written by: Ola Wande Ayewalehinmi
400 Level Biological Sciences
Ondo State University of Science and Technology, Okitipupa. Nigeria.