Celebrating Real Mothers -By Shem Godwins

“Mother love is the fuel that propels a normal human to achieve the impossible,”Marion C.Garrety.
Following the death of Anna Jarvis mother, around 1900, mother’s day has over the years been observed between the months of March and May in different countries to honor the sacrifices mothers make for their children to positively impact their lives.It is a day to recognize such efforts by the mother of the family, individual, motherhood or maternal bonds in the influence in society.

On the 14th day of May, social media platforms were decorated with the captions “Happy mother’s day, accompanied by lots of mouth watering praises about people’s mothers,with some women praising themselves.What people always fail to understand is that this day is meant to recognize mothers, who even if single have successfully raised socially, economically, mentally and morally among others stable individuals who have the wit to face and handle the world without having to blame others.These are those people who understand who they are and do not transfer their frustrations on other people.

The society needs a healthy existence and that’s why celebrating toxic, lonely mothers who turned to extreme feminists and in their hatred towards men end up radicalizing their children against their fathers by profiling all men is a mockery to motherhood. They mistake their hatred for love, not knowing they negatively impact on their children’s lives especially girls. By doing so, they teach their daughters that family disintegration and abusing men is the way to go, and their sons also learn that women are to be impregnated and dumped. Another mockery to motherhood is celebrating these pretenders in the name of single, courageous and strong mothers who claim not to tolerate men while they secretly sleep with other women’s husband’s to sustain their children, as well as the young misinformed girls who because of their love for money slept with different men ending up raising their children without knowing their biological fathers. They are like cult leaders.

Women have always wanted approval from their children hence the reason they think the world normally revolve around their affair. They want recognition every time-Valentines day, mother’s day, parents day and of course father’s day. It should not be a one man’s show. I am of the opinion that when recognizing mothers on this special day, we should also acknowledge some single men who have also successfully played the role of motherhood to nurture holistic individuals.

I salute Abel Amunga, the father to Ruth Matete, who genuinely focused on his daughter to a point where his wife had to leave them. He played both father and mother role in Ruth’s life to see her become a celebrated and an award winning musician. He, among other roles was a coach and mentor. His efforts are self explanatory, Ruth Matete is an inspiration. Another example is Pastor Elisha Muliri, the husband to the late gospel songstress Anjela Chibalonza who after the death of his wife, took it upon himself to be the father and mother to their daughter Wonder Chibalonza from age one year, and after fifteen years, Wonder Chibalonza appreciated in an television interview, the efforts of her father.

Mother’s day should not be mocked by anyone. For children who seek parental approval from their mothers to justify their irresponsible actions to mothers who desperately need self satisfaction and acceptance of their mistakes by their children, and unconsciously raise weapons in the name of children. They should look for their day. As much as men are always in the Frontline for neglecting responsibilities, we should learn to appreciate the upright few we have. For me, to my mother, every day is a mother’s day.