Christianity, Coronavirus, Marriage, Coping Mechanism, Divorce & Depression -By Nneka Okumazie

It is often always difficult to know what is real or not, because several things many do are duties of coping mechanisms.

Certain desires are hardly deep. Many are unable to find a reason – why – they do what they do, but find themselves consumed by it.

There’re often rummages for new, or more coping mechanisms. There are also sprints towards the next – as one becomes unable to fill the void in the mind or feel for the body.

Coping mechanisms can be individual or collective.

What would have been great opportunities – with patience, became what many selected for access to choice coping mechanisms, and easily abandoned when it could not fill them anymore.

A possible way to spot a coping mechanism is to see its contrast from self-denial.

Yes, there are some coping mechanisms that come as temporal self-denial, but most of what people want to escape from, aren’t what they want to deny themselves of – as they want to experience, experiment, choose and satisfy.

Coping mechanisms are part of the reasons lots of people mock the discipline of others, or hate channels that promote self-denial.

Lots of people have what they think will be their ultimate happiness, so regardless of rejection, disappointment, failure, they use all forms of coping mechanisms to keep on.

Some get there – sometimes in time, sometimes delayed, and some don’t. But at that destination, they are either addicted to coping mechanisms, or find that lots of assumptions made about the destination were wrong.

So the loop of coping continues, with losses, damages and pain.

It is hard to detach from coping mechanisms, regardless of something else – so invaluable – they have.

Some virtues would have been great coping mechanisms, but they seem too small. Gratitude, for everything an individual is, or has, would have been a great way to fight anxiety, but what is not in possession causes dejection, so gratitude seems unnecessary.

There are important markers: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, self-control that would have made all coping mechanisms useless, if only value is seen in those.

Devout Christianity, for example, is not a coping mechanism, because of major self-denial it commands.

Also, there may – sometimes – not be mind, or physical reward, yet JESUS lives in His people.

Marriage is not supposed to be a tool for coping mechanism, because it also has to truly have: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, self-control.

Coping mechanisms are easily thrown around and many have found confusion, unhappiness, blurry thoughts, destruction, hard addiction, desire for wickedness and evil, following after them.