Dissolution Of Marriage: The Incessant Of Divorce In Our Society -By Tajudeen Abdulrauf Dasuki

DISSOLUTION OF MARRIAGE:  THE INCESSANT OF DIVORCE IN OUR SOCIETY

“Had I known, I would not have listened to Alhaja, this is second man I married and at present am regretting of divorced the first man of my first three children, now, seeking for another divorce” said by a petitioner.

These days, filing of dissolution of marriage before the court has no different rates in submitting job applications, without skeptical – they have turned its formality as normal routine under the guise of “financial capacity”. Whereas, based on the above quotation we can arrive to the conclusion that most divorce tactically initiated by parents of the petitioner, mother to be precise and wife mostly become the petitioner.

On a Tuesday morning, I was approaching to enter the open court at Upper Area Court 1, Ilorin, Division when I heard a woman uttered the above quotation which later be known as petitioner, during the time, I discovered that she was regretting of dissolved her first marriage in the name of “Financial Capacity” in which she had nothings out of which been married with  another man, now seeking for another dissolution. Whereas, it shown in her assertion that had she known, she would not had dissolved her first marriage but she was tricked based on the sentiment heard from Alhaja as so-called. Now, she discovered that the earlier divorced was not the solution to the problem – she is regretting profusely. It seems this is how most of them regretting the action of being divorced after the vision of their sense later lucid – they were often blindfolded under the masquerade of incapability and pompous untill it reiterate itself from the new-taker. Eversince, all dissolution of marriage I have witnessed most, the petitioner hidden under the guise of ‘financial capacity’ as to why they seek for divorce. But, the woman was saying it outside the court with those accompaning her to there, that, when it comes to marital problems, financial capacity to be precise, one should never involve her parents/guardians even friends, because you may regret of doing it later – future.

However, on Friday, 5 Day of December, 2025, I observed the Juma’ah Prayer at the High Court Central Mosque, the sermon of the day also lies on the “incessant of divorce in our society” which the Imam plead all mothers outside that they should stop advising their female children to get divorce in the name of financial capacity even though it is the responsibility of husband but as economic of the country is concern and others situation, patience should be the paramount – if the husband making effort. The Imam was questioning these mothers as to why them not divorce their own husband knowingly that not all days, weeks, months, and years they have been together were all good; some might had been hardly tough. He further in his sermon that, what you parents (mothers) dare not do in your own matrimonial house are those advise giving to your own female daughters and turning all these daughter of yours to single mother. Meanwhile, they are getting divorced contrary to what Islamic Law, prescribed as germane causation.

Accidentally, some husbands are also selfishness and not capable or worthy of being an husbands as to their deliberately conduct towards their family. Your family can not differentiate when and when you do not have, every-day cooked palatable stories for them, what are you scheming for your son?. Moreover, it is the responsibility of you (man) keening to enjoy the pleasure in marriage to have get himself prepared – why going into the union when you know yourself as incapable man? I believe the kernel of being an husband is to play your roles as inscribed and ordeals into the divine law. Some petitioner would not have been blamed, if it was done appropriately, but their parent, mother especially, tricked and forcefully them into the dissolution based on their own self-interest.

In view of the forgoing, it is high time you racked your brain and not let anyone’s sentiment tricks you to the long lasting regression. Limit your marital affairs discussion with your family, friends or colleagues; some are hunting a family they will downturn as theirs – looking for irresponsible as they are; subordinate clause. Are not you ashame of leaping from one man to another? This is time for you to exercise patience except if the union trying to drain your blood or strikes your life. You would not have met your mother in your father’s roof, if she did not exercises patience but she does. Remember the aghast and suffering the victim (child/children)of the wedlock will undermine, here is how some children being sophisticated.

Do not be tricked! Exercise patience in the name of the product born in the wedlock.

Dissolution of marriage is not the solution.

Tajudeen Abdulrauf Dasuki

Monday, 8 Day of December, 2025.