The Rising Rate Of Divorce In Our Society And The Needful Actions -By Naseer Tijjani

All human societies from the simplest to the most complex have some forms of inequality that seems to be stratified. God Has distributed sustenance among humankind in different ways for them to leave in comfort with one another. Almighty Has created all creatures in pairs ( male and female) for their proper existence on the earth. Marriage has been described as the legal relationship between husband and wife. When the former and the latter agreed to leave legally, then they can be called married couples.

Comparatively, the relationship between men and women is as old as the world itself. The duo were meant to interact and survive together for so many reasons. Though, for most men and women, marriage does not bring a higher status than bachelorhood or spinsterhood. Equally, to some, surviving with husband or wife has greater advantage.

There is no doubt that our society is now full of unmarried girls, widows and divorcees. Women are getting divorced everyday and night at a very high rate. To me, none of the couples should be blameless for marriage conflict involves two parties.

Where the problem lies!

Divorce is often pronounced when the husband/ wife is provoked as a result of certain utterances or actions of the former or latter. If a conflict exists between the couples to the extent that they cannot control their temper, then divorce usually comes as a last resort. Culturally, parents/guardians play significant role in resolving any form of misunderstanding between husband and his wife. They mediate wisely and eloquently whenever the problem arise. In a typical Hausa society, parents/ guardians are referred to as the final Judges that preside over any matrimonial problem. The culture is still in existence in some places. However, it is good to note that marriage is all about tolerance, perseverance, patience, kindness, love, affection, caring, concern and peace of mind. When the above are lost, the purpose has been defeated. Nowadays, some people get married only to satisfy their sexual desire and not to establish peaceful family with purpose and focus. Prior to the marriage, the two loved each other like Romio and Juliet thereby exchanging terms like: Sweetheart, my honey, my other half, my dream, my happiness and mine. The story begins to change after the marriage.Meanwhile, failure to fulfill the mandate of each other also brings the couples to separation. When the two refuse to shoulder their responsibilities with care, then there must be problem at all levels.

The culture of consulting parents/ guardians before making any decision should be maintained. Therefore, one should not divorce his wife without the consent of his parents/ guardians.

The couples should make sure that they fulfill all the marriage obligations enforced on them by religion and culture ( where necessary).

Sometimes, the best response to women is silence. Don’t exchange terms with her when you are provoked. Get out of the house for a while so as not to hear her offensive words.

Being him the pillar of the family, the husband should not hesitate to apologise if mistake is done as should the wife.

The couples should Continue to use the love terms as mentioned earlier for they assist a lot.