Four Mental Health That Cause Low Self-Esteem -By Maira Nadeem

Low self-esteem refers to the lack of self-worth and confidence. Individual with low self-esteem tend to have a negative perception of their own abilities, values and qualities. They often struggle with their belief that they are not good enough.

Low self-esteem can have an important impact on various aspects of a person’s life. It can affect their relationships, career choices, academic performance, and overall emotional well-being. It may lead to feelings of loss or unhappiness, social isolation, anxiety, and depression.

Most people presume that they need to understand the root of their low self-esteem to improve and work on it. It’s true that unpacking the original root or cause of your low self-esteem can be very helpful to overcome this struggle. In my work as a writer, by far the biggest reason I see people struggle with low self-esteem and they are in very swear pain and depression. If you can learn to overcome these four mental habits, you’ll find your self-esteem is actually much higher than your thoughts.

1. Dwelling on past mistakes

One of the main reasons people suffer from low self-esteem is that they get into the habit of dwelling on their past mistakes. As human beings, we all make mistakes. Mistakes can be valuable learning experiences. It’s alright if we have made numerous mistakes in our past. Of course, we all make mistakes. What if we say something insensitive at a party and feel embarrassed afterward? What if we are not passing an exam? What if we getting fired from job? What if we become a failure?

• IT’S OKAY. IT’S ALRIGHT

Mistakes is healthy and good for us because it help us to avoid similar mistakes in future. If you failed an exam don’t worry you can prepare next time and learn from failure. If you relationship and marriage fails it is because probably you can reflect on your worth, happiness and comfort.

Step to overcome from this:

• Accept your past mistakes.
• Accept your flaws and start work on them.
• Prioritize yourself.
• Work on your confidence.
• Make good friend circle who motivate you.
• Believe in yourself

The past can’t decide your future. Past can’t hurt you anymore, let it go. Enjoy your work and focus on your self-growth and explore new professional opinions. Make yourself strong mentally and physically.

Forgive yourself.

2. Worrying about the future

Worrying about the future is another mental habit that feels productive but is actually very harmful to both your mental health and self-esteem. Worry makes you depressed and anxious. We train our brains to be afraid unnecessarily. Worrying excessively about the future can develop the habit of overthinking, which can contribute to feelings of depression and may lead to various mental illnesses. It is important to find ways to calm yourself and have faith in your abilities. The future cannot determine your worth or success. Instead, focus on engaging in productive work and maintaining belief in yourself. By doing so, you will be able to witness the beauty that the future holds.

Step to overcome this:

• Believe on your hard work
• Be calm and have faith in yourself.
• Do productive work

Ruminating about old injuries

In point one, we talked about how dwelling on our past mistakes hurts self-esteem. Similarly, dwelling or ruminating on injuries or slights against us can be unhealthy mentally or physically. When someone hurts us it is natural to think about the situation. This is especially true if it’s someone close to us like a parent, friend or partner etc.

Reflecting on how others have hurt us in the past:

• The one who hurt us on a regular basis which ones are unhealthy and to be avoided.
• The one who keep remind us our mistakes.
• The one who are abusive, dramatic and harmful toward us.

Rumination leads to anger. Chronically feeling angry can lead to depression, resentments, stress, and relationship conflicts. Moving on from an unhealthy relationship is hard. Often it requires to setting a healthy boundaries and removing people from your life or working to forgive yourself and someone how many people stay stuck in their lives because they can’t let go of the past? It’s alright and it’s okay to forgive yourself and move on. It is morally unacceptable to being stuck in your past and ruminating an old injuries.

Judging yourself for how you feel

It is necessary to give importance to your feelings. It is very common in many abusive relationship where another person take all decisions and maintain their control or power. And this is not acceptable. It’s important to acknowledge and respect your feelings. If you feel like eating cake, you can choose to indulge in it. If you’re feeling tired, it’s beneficial to prioritize rest and take a break. When you experience anger, it’s essential to find healthy ways to manage and express it.

Step to overcome this:

• Respect your feelings.
• Do whatever you want.
• Prioritize your mood.

In conclusion, working on improving self-esteem involves self-reflection, challenging negative beliefs, practicing self-care, and building self-confidence through achieving realistic goals. With self-awareness and the right support, individuals can develop a healthier and more positive self-perception. Remember, everyone is deserving of self-respect and self-acceptance.