Never Marry One Whom You Don’t Trust -By Usama Abdullahi

Lack of trust is a major factor affecting marriages these days. I know a man who recently got engaged to his girlfriend. Everything was going fine for him and his fiancee until he caught her talking to another guy. When he saw her with the guy, he reported him to the Market Management where they both work. This may seem ridiculous, but I understand the pain that comes with betrayal.

However, I’m not sure if the guy he caught talking to his fiancee is actually having an affair with her. Up to now, there’s no sufficient evidence to prove such claims. Yet, two things stand out in this story. One is that, as a prospective couple, you should never feel suspicious of each other. Suspicion always sets in when you don’t trust your partner. Before you decide to get engaged to your partner, make sure you trust them because trust significantly improves your relationship.

Trust is crucial in every relationship, and its absence destroys the foundation upon which the relationship is built. When it comes to marriage decisions, things should not be carried out in haste. By rushing things, you disregard every necessary step to make the marriage work. Like patience, trust is highly required in building successful relationships. Even though some people believe that “successful relationships” do not exist, still mistrust or suspicion destabilizes relationships.

The story of the man I told is one of the apparent reasons that cause marriage failure in our modern society. And many people can agree with me that the people who are often suspicious of their romantic partners aren’t always found innocent of the things they suspect in those partners. They could be the ones who are guilty while their partners could be free from guilt. Other times, the partners could both be guilty, which might lead to the ruination of their long-term relationship. So, in order to avoid having your decade-long relationship destroyed by lack of trust, ensure that you marry or fall in love with someone you can trust.

If you suspect that your partner is having an affair with someone other than you, confront them and talk the way out. Sometimes your suspicions might be wrong. And it takes one to know one. Moreover, if you get suspicious of your partner all the time, then you should always question yourself. Maybe you’re the one with such questionable characters. Or maybe your instinct is misleading you into thinking otherwise. It’s also advisable that you do not marry the person whom you usually get suspicious of.

Usama Abdullahi writes from Abuja, and can be reached at usamagayyi@gmail.com