Global Issues
Men: Victims Of Domestic Violence -By Rabiu Adeyika Mohammed
In a research work conducted by Paul O. Dienye, and Precious K. Gbeneol on Domestic Violence Against Men in Primary Care in Nigeria, it shows that the age distribution of the men who suffered domestic violence ranged from 35 to 55 years, which constitutes the productive age group.
It is a common knowledge that when one heard of domestic violence, women naturally comes to mind as the ones at the receiving ends. Females are always projected as the victims of domestic violence, hence, violence against men is underreported.
United Nations describes Domestic abuse, also called “domestic violence” or “intimate partner violence” IPV, “as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner. Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviours that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure, or wound someone”.
As maintained by the United Nations that domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion, or gender, it is still considered absurd when the report is coming from man and some have the sentiments that becoming an abusive woman is as a reaction to husband violent actions as a self defense. This is the opinion of the society and it is expected of men to be silent and not raise alarm when needed so as not be considered weak.
Men who speak up about domestic violence experience social stigma regarding their perceived lack of machismo and other denigrations of their masculinity. Moreover, intimate partner violence (IPV) against men is generally given less attention by society than IPV against women, which further stands as block to men reporting their situation.
According to Uzoamaka Chukwuma of the Department of Sociology, University of Ibadan (UI), in a doctoral thesis defended in Lagos said that in spite of being abused, men won’t report their ordeal, because they fear stigmatisation from friends and family. “They usually do not want any third-party interference and because they are still financially dependent on their wives.
According to her “More married men are becoming victims of spousal abuse, but suffer in silence, because the society does not believe men can be victims of spousal abuse, hence, the non-disclosure of such experience for fear of stigmatisation”.
As much as the media focus on violation against women there are considerable numbers of domestic violence against men too. For example in England and Wales, the “Home Office Research Study 191” surveyed 10,844 people (5,886 women and 4,958 men) between the ages of 16 and 59, finding that for the twelve-month period preceding the survey, 4.2% of men had experienced IPV. Over a lifetime, this figure increased to 14.9% of men. Of the 6.6 million incidents of IPV, 3.25 million involved male victims, with 1 million incidents resulting in injury. And their statistics keeps going higher by the day.
In Africa, Nigeria especially, reports of IPV against men are not well reported but it is happening. One out of many cases of IPV against men is the report from DailyNigerian the story of Olanrewaju Adeniran who wants his marriage with the wife, Fatimah desolved by Grade A
Customary Court in Mapo in Ibadan, because of the abuses he received from his wife.
According to Adeniran, a retired civil servant said that his wife was rude and was becoming a threat to his life. “After our wedding in May 1995, Fatima started misbehaving. She is rude to my mother and relatives. She beats me and grabs my private parts. Fatima calls me bastard, lazy man and so many other unprintable names,” he explained.
In a research work conducted by Paul O. Dienye, and Precious K. Gbeneol on Domestic Violence Against Men in Primary Care in Nigeria, it shows that the age distribution of the men who suffered domestic violence ranged from 35 to 55 years, which constitutes the productive age group.
Paul and Precious find a story of a 36-year-old mechanical engineer working on an oil drilling platform presented with 2-day history of wound on the right leg. The injury was said to have been sustained during a fight with his wife who in annoyance poured hot water from a kettle on his leg. There had been previous episodes of disagreements with her in which she had physically abused him. He reported this present episode to the police and was asked to obtain a medical report from a physician. Physical examination revealed scratches on the neck, bruises on the head, and superficial burns on the right calf which was painted with gentian violet.
Similarly, a 43-year-old commercial bank manager presented in the company of a policeman with a 1-day history of wounds on the head, neck, and right arm. He had a scuffle with his wife who had been suspecting him of infidelity because he was always returning home late from work. He came for the purpose of obtaining medical report from a physician for the police. Physical examination revealed bruises on the head and right arm, scratches on the neck, and welts on the left upper arm.
Also from the findings is the case of This 51-year-old trader with secondary education reported to the hospital with scratch marks on the face and bruises on the hand. These injuries were sustained during a fight with the wife. He claimed that his wife was making excessive financial demands which he could not satisfy hence the frequent disagreements, culminating in fights. He reported to the police and was referred to the hospital to obtain medical report. A diagnosis of domestic violence against husband was made.
These are very few cases of IPV faced by men out of many happening out there. Be it any gender, age, or race domestic violence should be discouraged. This article is not to disregard females ordeal about domestic violence but to bring to attention of society the situation of men and be given fair hearing. And stigmatisation should be eliminated
It is high time that the society should start listening to men side of the story. Stigamatisation has been the major reason men refuse to speak up. The fear of what the society will take them for; a coward or disable man. To save the men, their feelings and emotions must be put into consideration. With this the society will be balance and fair towards all.
Rabiu Adeyika Mohammed. Bayero University Kano.