The Genesis Of Divorce In Wadata Community, Makurdi -By Hassan Idris

Isn’t it time I gnash my teeth in pains for those men who insult their wives in the midst of their children? What actually are they showing and teaching their children rather than indirectly telling and showing them the normalcy of such behavior and for them to repeat thesame thing to their wives when they too get married. Shame also to those women who insult their husbands in the midst of their children! And what do they expect from their children and relatives than repeating thesame thing?

This is called Social learning theory in Sociology and criminology. Those children will see that as normal and will practice thesame thing when they grow. Children learn a lot of things which they tend to put into practice as they grow, more especially from the first agent of socialization.

Secondly, my brother, you take your wife’s minor issues and imperfections everyday to your parents and relatives without trying to settle things amicably amongst yourselves and you expect your family members and parents to like and welcome her? You’re not serious, dogs don’t eat feces for nothing!

My sister, you’re the one living with your husband and you know him better and his imperfections why not settle with him and why take his matters to your parents and family members and expect them to like him and not help you finish him totally? Your parents have lived their own marriage lives and as such have settled a lot of family crisis themselves, and your relatives do they bring their family crisis to you to settle them or do they tell you they don’t have their own problems they are battling with too?

Calm down, it’s cool to let your parents and relatives know your problems but not all the time without trying to fix it yourself, you’re the one living with your partners and not your parents and as such if your parents ain’t alive anymore does that you’ll need to go find arbitrator for a minor conflict everyday and everytime like someone who’s addicted to drugs. There’s no perfect marriages and humans in world and our ability to welcome our imperfections and peacefully settle our difference matters a lot.

©Hassan Idris.
Benue, Nigeria.
idrishassan035@gmail.com.