Love, Money Or Sex -By Kosoko Oluwatobiloba Adejumoke

In a world where all that matters to the person who claims to love you is money and sex depending on the gender you are dealing with, Love does not seem to exist. I thought love is supposed to be a strong feeling of deep affection for somebody that you are attracted to – if that is it, then why would a lady be proclaiming love to more than one person just to get money from each of them? I have seen a friend who travelled from Lagos to Sokoto one weekend and Ilorin another weekend just to see the guys who thought she loves them, funnily enough they all want to have sex with her. Money? According to my ‘Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary’ is what you earn by working or selling items, does that mean we sell our bodies to earn money? Oh! Sex is a work.

How about men who believes love is all about sex? Reason why I find it difficult to trust in relationship. It is illegal to have sex with a person under sixteen but I know a girl who got pregnant at fifteen. A secondary school mate said it to my face that if he was in a relationship with me, I will not be thinking of no sex till marriage. Virginity sounds odd, I can not bring myself to tell my friends I am a virgin because it will not go down well with them.

Premarital sex has wrecked a lot of people. A church member who died last year (May God rest her soul) as a result of complications while committing abortion has once came to me ranting how she felt lonely, how no one wants to be her friend if she is not ready to join them; we eventually lost her.

My mother works in a Federal hospital, she comes back home usually with one or two warning(s) and sometimes bad news that will make me weep constantly for my generation because how can a young lady be pregnant and she will not even know who impregnated her? This is why I’m not bothered by all the happenings around me.

According to a concept created by Dr. Gary Chapman, there are five ways to show love to your loved ones and they are : Words of affirmation, Acts of service, Receiving gifts, Quality time, and Physical touch. I think it is high time everyone stopped claiming receiving gifts as their love language, if you are receiving gifts then make it vice versa.

The world can be better but it starts from each and everyone of us, we need to change our mindset and embrace chastity.

Kosoko Oluwatobiloba Adejumoke from Lagos State University.