On Women And Money

For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her (Proverbs 7:26).

The Creator made women to be men’s helpers, but some as devil’s helpers help the devil to destroy men’s destinies. A woman is supposed to be to a man what a fireplace is to a family during winter, that in companionship she might give him warmth from the cold of his loneliness. She that was intended to be a helper suitable for him was his undoing. Instead of helping the man, Eve helped the devil to destroy Adam (Genesis 3:6), Delilah to destroy Samson (Judges 16:19), Jezebel to destroy Ahab (1 Kings 21:15), and over the years women keep repeating history.

God is still searching for a man in our generation who can say like Joseph, How then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God? Mrs. Potiphar will not be able to destroy your destiny unless you allow her access to that rod between your legs. There is no grave for you anywhere; your grave is that bed on which you commit adultery or fornication with her. Some think a man is dead when that man shows no visible sign of being alive. No! Death is being in existence with dead dreams. Some also think a man’s grave is a six-feet deep pit in the earth. No! It is that few inches hole in a woman’s body. Many men dig their graves with their sexual organs long before the shovel is put to use.

You who still live a promiscuous life should know that you have started digging your grave. It is just a matter of years before you go down with HIV/AIDS unless you repent and abstain. A man who wants to fulfil his destiny will fear a woman more than the devil. If you want to fulfil your destiny, first be sure to stay alive. A dead man cannot fulfil his destiny; it takes those who zip up today to go up tomorrow.

Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings (Proverbs 31:3).

A woman’s inward strength is her outward weakness. With her weakness she is able to slay many strong men and to destroy kings. It is not easy to get rid of a man unless you go through his wife who stays with him all the time and knows his secrets. She sees his nakedness in bed and not one shameful spot is hidden from her. The man confides in her and like Samson he tells her everything about himself, forgetting that the devil was once an angel and she is still a woman liable to change. A woman loves to hear the truth but hates the man after he has told her. So any wise man will be careful not to tell a woman all that he knows about himself or something important.

A man is unique for his strength and a woman for her weakness. Genesis 3:23 says that the man was the one endowed with strength to till the ground and not the woman. God made the man to be stronger than the woman both physically and emotionally. For example, if I ask a man and a woman of the same age to fell a tree, the woman will be the first person to get tired and quit the task. Peter calls her the weaker vessel because of her soft and tender nature. A woman easily gets hurt and it is easy for her tears to flow. A man, on the other hand, is strong because he is controlled by his head and not by his heart. He bases all his actions on reasoning and not on feeling. God also made the man to be wiser than the woman both in planning and in acting. A man thinks deeply before he acts. A woman, on the other hand, acts rashly before she thinks. I believe that is why God placed the man as head over the woman because he possesses all the wisdom it takes to run the home effectively and efficiently.

A man who gives his strength to a woman is like a king who dashes his subject his crown. If you fail to exercise your authority as a man over a woman, you have given her your manly strength. If you give a woman all the money you should have saved, you have given her your financial strength. A man who wastes all his resources on a woman plays the fool in the end of the game. Love is a game and the person who always loses is the one who plays it fairly and gives money freely; a man must use both his head and his heart to love a woman. If you give a woman all the time you should have used to work, you have also given her your financial strength because time is money. A woman is a king’s destroyer and not a king’s maker. She who promises to make a man great in life may soon mar him if he is not careful with her. She is not in his way to lead him on but to derail him. A woman does not bring about a man’s greatness in life but shares in his glory.

ON MONEY

Love not sleep, lest thou come to poverty; open thine eyes, and thou shalt be satisfied with bread (Proverbs 20:13).

Those who love success in life will hate sleep. A man who loves to sleep will never know the joy of being rich. My very good friend Evangelist Onome Stephen Obiunukefe said that if you sleep too much, life will pass you by and that is true. Life will not offer success to those who love sleep but to those who love hard work. You must be hard-working for life not to pass you by. Imagine a man who sleeps at night and throughout the day. While others are going to their various places of work, he is on his bed sleeping. While others are making money to better their lives, he dreams of becoming rich but wakes up to the harsh reality of his penury. By the end of the month while others are smiling home with their salary, he is also smiling but only in his dreams. If you are jobless, find something to do. Do not waste your time on sleep. Opportunity does not come by sleeping but by searching. Start looking for something to do with your time that will fetch you money.

Poverty is not lack of money but lack of ideas. You are not poor because you do not have money to start something of your own; you are poor because you lack the ideas of how to use the little money you have to make more money for yourself. Aliko Dangote who is one of the richest businessmen in Nigeria today started his business with limited resources. He was able to succeed not because he invested so much money in the business but because he had the ideas of how to use little to get much. If he had loved sleep and refused to be diligent in business, maybe by now he would have settled for financial mediocrity. Financial excellence is not for those who wait for a favourable condition or opportunity to present itself but for those who work while they wait. He who has a dream and goes back to sleep will soon realize that no dream fulfils itself. Do not sleep away your dreams and visions in life. Wake up to reality and start doing something of your own today so as to fulfil them. Do not be like this lazy man.

Money will not come to you if you sit idle in your house. You must go out to look for it everyday. Every sweet thing in life demands sweat and money is not an exception. The principle of money is simple: do something and get something in return, do nothing and get nothing in return; sleep and become poor, work and become rich. The choice is yours. If you continue to love sleep, your poverty will continue and become abject. If you do not want to live a penurious life, open your eyes and you shall be satisfied with bread. The food you will eat in your lifetime is already there; you must work hard before you eat it. There is always money in the bank but you cannot go there and withdraw other people’s money; you must work hard for your own. Sleep is sweet but success is sweeter. Like I said, the choice is yours to make.