Letters
Am closing in on 30 -when will i find Mr Right?
I was at the cinema the other day when i noticed this lady, despite the funny and interesting movie that was showing, her face was tight, i sensed she was disturbed and close to tears. For those of you who don’t know, the easiest way to get a disturbed lady cry her heart out to you(a stranger) is to show concern and be able to hit the actual disturbance on the head the moment you open your mouth to speak to her. That my friends, was exactly what i did.
After a short period, two minutes actually, i got to know that the next day was her birthday. She was entering “the ladies marked age(30)” with no fiance, no suitors, no boyfriend or whatsoever. Her parents kept freaking her out on this and hence, her resolve to come to the cinema to while away time before returning home.
“Please don’t ask what happened further because nothing happened further“.
I really can’t say what exactly pushed me to writing this, but i will let you know a few of the places where you ladies got it all wrong. Just the other day i was chatting with my friend about this lady in our group, without waiting to get the context, the next thing i heard was “bros no try am o, unless you won marry next week(my friend don’t try it unless you are willing to marry next week)”. Most ladies, at the age of 25 think their biological clock has started to tick too loud that their neighbours could hear. Because of this, they have the “i want to get married NOW” written all over their forehead, scaring every men away.
While some ladies search for the type of marriages or husbands they see on movies, the type filled with passion and excitements, others on the other hand set their focus in the wrong places.
Some look for a tall, handsome, funny, energetic, outgoing man who’s exciting and impulsive yet stable and dependable. Many others look out for the car driving types, the already established ones, those type that will facially claim to love but the moment they eat your cookies you will see them no more, and then you begin the process of searching and selecting all over again.
If i may, looking for a husband is not it. Looking for a husband is like looking for already baked bread in a wheat field. The best practice is to look for friendship that has a good possibility of blossoming. Take some time to re-look your standards to see if its actually realistic in today’s conventional society. Don’t make the game too hard or too easy for him, try to keep it balanced and periodically checked, do not be too quick in offering your cookies and most of all, know when the right hand is knocking at your door.
If you disagree with me or have more to add, please make your comment!